eldoman95 Posted October 18, 2004 Report Share Posted October 18, 2004 this may be long but i need to vent... my girl of almost a year, longest yet, decided just 2 minits ago to throgh in the towell. this has me torn apart considering her and my work were my life for the last year.. well this isnt as long as i thoght it would be but you can garuntee that i have a long night tonight with mr. jose cuervo! i know its not the end of the world but you cant denie that it hurts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JasonA Posted October 18, 2004 Report Share Posted October 18, 2004 Don' worry about it too much (those words probably don't mean much right now). There is a plan for you in life. There's a plan for everyone. The trick is, none of us know what that plan is. We discover it, page by page, as we live our lives. Everything that happens, does so for a reason. We don't know why right away -- and may never know why. But I suspect you'll find out why soon enough. Jason(2001 STS, White Diamond) "When you turn your car on...does it return the favor?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adallak Posted October 18, 2004 Report Share Posted October 18, 2004 my girl of almost a year, longest yet well... at least you are making progress. hopefully you'll get life-time one soon The saddest thing in life is wasted talent Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Regis Posted October 18, 2004 Report Share Posted October 18, 2004 I hope it wasn't from all the time spent on this discussion board. My fiance isn't exactly crazy about the time i spend on here (which isn't nearly as much as some) for it takes away from our time. Hope the Cuervo helps you. It never helped me but sure was fun. I'd like to share this thought with you though. Don't waste time feeling sorry, trying to understand why someone doesn't want to be with you. Because afterall, would you really want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you? When you're with someone that is into you the way you are them....... wow now that's something! Better days are always ahead. Here's something I wrote years ago and is appropriate. A little funny and so very true. "Love is like air... sometimes it stinks but we all need it to Live." -kg "Burns" rubber " I've never considered myself to be all that conservative, but it seems the more liberal some people get the more conservative I become. " Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ranger Posted October 18, 2004 Report Share Posted October 18, 2004 Sorry to hear that eldoman, but I assure you, time really does heal all wounds. Been there, done that. Don't let Jose get you in any trouble with the cops tonight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eldoman95 Posted October 19, 2004 Author Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Hope the Cuervo helps you. It never helped me but sure was fun. Here's something I wrote years ago and is appropriate. A little funny and so very true. "Love is like air... sometimes it stinks but we all need it to Live." -kg thanks all for the support... i just need time to myself and to relax a little. lifes stressfull right now with the war and money being tight... i have a lot going on right now thatll help me keep my mind off it. thanks again all. eldoman, nic vazquez Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLAWS Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Hey buddy sorry to hear that. Yeah women are screwy like that. They will just randomly break up with you and you'll get no clear signals before the break up occurs. If you still have some feelings for her the best thing to do is to give her space and not harass her on why she broke up with you. Arguing just makes things worse. You can't force her to take you back. Just try to stay focused on work and hobbies. It'll be tough for the first couple of weeks. A similar situation happened to me. I stayed busy and focused on my career trying to keep the pain away and evenually ended up meeting someone else new and improved I've been with the same girl for about 7 years and that previous girl that broke up with me actually found out where I work and tried to hook back up with me!!! It took me a while to figure out who she was since she gained about 75lbs !!! Stay strong brotha, and remember, there is someone for everyone. You'll eventually find Mrs Right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eldoman95 Posted October 19, 2004 Author Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Hey buddy sorry to hear that. Yeah women are screwy like that. They will just randomly break up with you and you'll get no clear signals before the break up occurs. If you still have some feelings for her the best thing to do is to give her space and not harass her on why she broke up with you. Arguing just makes things worse. You can't force her to take you back. Just try to stay focused on work and hobbies. It'll be tough for the first couple of weeks. A similar situation happened to me. I stayed busy and focused on my career trying to keep the pain away and evenually ended up meeting someone else new and improved I've been with the same girl for about 7 years and that previous girl that broke up with me actually found out where I work and tried to hook back up with me!!! It took me a while to figure out who she was since she gained about 75lbs !!! Stay strong brotha, and remember, there is someone for everyone. You'll eventually find Mrs Right thanks jlaws, man it hurts, my throats been in a knot the last hour, and it sucks cause im still at work and cant leave for another hour.. first steps first. get drunk and forget. althogh my alcohol consler says otherwise! some sad humer for you.. thanks. nic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JLAWS Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Yeah it's tough brotha. It's pretty hard to take your mind off of the break up. Alot of things go thru your mind like if there is someone else she's seeing or if it's something you did to cause the break up. A one year relationship is a "young" relationship. I'm sure you guys had the topic of marriage come up while you were together whether it was a serious conversation or not. But you know what you hold all the cards now. Don't argue with her. If you speak to her be as civilied as possible. Just mention you are just focused on work and trying to stay busy. No whining !!! Try to be as neutral minded as possible. She may or may not take you back. Just be ready to truly move on. But if she takes you back, don't rush back into it. Make sure your head is clear and you've really thought things thru. You may not even want her back Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob D Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Bummer, eldo. But I'll tell you, I went through a bunch over the years untill I found the the one I have now. She was well worth the wait and some of the lonely times and heartache that went with it. I would NOT go back and change a thing. Hang in there bud. '93 STS.. opened, dropped, wide...fast. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pats37 Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 eldoman, Love doesn't stink but sometimes the people we choose to love do. That works both ways. Jose Cuervo won't help. (unless you enjoy nasty hangovers) Look at it this way. There is a beginning and end to everything. Even if she came back and apologized, things would never be the same as the trust was violated. Look to the future, the past is just experience and history. You will probably do much better with the next one. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phillydude Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Hope you feel better today... sometimes the fresh air of dawn's early morning light and the tequila-scented reek of your own spew will bring you comfort. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oldgamer Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Agree with pats37. Now you're still involved in everything what's happened. Don't do anything. The best time to check your eldo again and do some work. And NEVER GO BACK. And you will see, other day some nice girl'll just smile to you and you'll be like that caddy with zero miles and everything ahead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eldoman95 Posted October 19, 2004 Author Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Hope you feel better today... sometimes the fresh air of dawn's early morning light and the tequila-scented reek of your own spew will bring you comfort. man u told my life story... i woke up 30 minites ago at a shoe store at a mall neer my house. wierd. im still kind of drunk, but ill tell you i dont remember a thing, and havent thought about Sabrina yet.... thats the witches name! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norton1 Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 All exs are either Bit*hs or bast*rds. Takes two to make it work or not - And if you have an alcohol counselor you may have more than one reason things didn't work out. Sorry it didn't work but your coping mechanism needs some fine tuning in my opinion - woke up in a shoe store?? Hope you didn't drive - Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cupillac Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Hey a least your other baby (ETC) is still there. "Cadillac, it's not a car, it's an obsession" -W.Kingdon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franey Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 JUST REMEMBER WOMEN ARE LIKE A BUS , THEIR WILL BE ANOTHER ONE ALONG IN A LITTLE WHILE. ALSO AT LEAST YOU WERE NOT MARRIED TO HER. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
davedog Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Maybe this equation will cheer you up: Crystal Red Tintcoat Exterior | Shale/Brownstone Interior | 32k Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dasher Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Eldoman: If you're telling us that you got blotto drunk and then DROVE YOUR CAR, methinks the lovely Sabrina made the right choice. I'm only surprised she didn't make it sooner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eldoman95 Posted October 19, 2004 Author Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 why does everyone think i drove! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adallak Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 why does everyone think i drove! because that's what everyone would do The saddest thing in life is wasted talent Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norton1 Posted October 20, 2004 Report Share Posted October 20, 2004 Why would I think you drove? I don't know - let's see - - hmmmmmm Got so blottoed you don't remember where you were and woke up in a shoe store in the mall?? Just a long shot for me - but 100% of the drunks I worked with professionally did things that were not the smartest things to do while in a blackout. You stated you had an alcohol counselor - only one reason why you would have one of those - prior not so smart decisions while under the influence. Anyway - I didn't assume in my original post - I said I hoped you didn't. It would be a bit abherational of you to step outside the boundaries of what the majority of drunks do all of the time. But if you didn't, and you have not said you didn't yet, good on you! Be well Steve Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ByStorm Posted October 21, 2004 Report Share Posted October 21, 2004 Everyone thinks you drove because you never said and still haven't said you did not drive. Maybe your girl left you because of your drinking. Ya think? Get a grip and get some help man..... Peace Out ByStorm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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